Parents always want only the best for their children. In addition to these basic needs, other elements are necessary for the child's life. One of the elements to take into account is the way in which they manifest their identity. With the injustice of life and the pressures of society, establishing and developing a positive sense of self is an essential condition for being able to cope with the difficulties of life. It will be one of the greatest gifts that adults can give to younger generations.
WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?
In psychology, self-esteem is the overall view of a person on his own worth. This is how she appreciates and sees herself in a positive way. It involves many things and beliefs in oneself, such as one's physical appearance, emotions, attitudes. His behavioral aspect is considered a personal quality, so he tends to be stable and tenacious.
In Abraham Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs, self-esteem is described as a basic human need. For him, each person needs the esteem of others as much as himself. Both must be effective in humans so that each individual can grow as a responsible person allowing him to reach maturity.
FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF-ESTEEM
Just like the other characteristics of each person, many factors influence the self-esteem of individuals. In addition to its genes, which are the fundamental source of personality, experiences are the ones that shape them in large part. Having negative experiences in life can lead to low self-esteem, while those who receive more motivation and encouragement may have high self-esteem.
In addition, deep thinking, age, illness, disability or other possible physical disabilities, and even work can affect self-esteem.
HOW DO YOU DEVELOP SELF-VALUE?
Recognition of self-confidence begins in early childhood and develops gradually over time, as a person slowly learns to see his environment and begins to manage everything around him.
The ability to do little things yourself is part of the early childhood stage. Thanks to his new skills, the child will start to feel good. His self-esteem continues to improve, especially if his parents give him enough attention and encourage him to try to do more.
SIGNS OF LOW OR HIGH ESTIMATES OF SELF IN CHILDREN
Children with high self-esteem:
- Do you feel that they are loved and accepted for what they are?
- Have enough confidence
- Are always proud of what they do
- Think good things about themselves
- Still believe in themselves
On the other hand, children with low self-esteem:
- Are self-deprecating and harsh on themselves
- Feel they are not as good as the others
- Think about when they fail rather than when they thrive
- Lack confidence
- Doubt their ability to do well
WHY IS SELF-ESTEEM IMPORTANT?
- Self-esteem helps children easily overcome their difficulties.
- This motivates them to fight hard and do their best.
- It helps them to try new things with courage.
- This gives them the strength to try again each time they fail.
- They will do better at home and at school.
MEANS TO DEVELOP THE SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN
Every child is different. Self-esteem may be easier for some children, but not for others. And some children face issues that can reduce or improve their self-esteem. If a child's self-esteem is low, it can be developed. There are techniques to help them develop their self-esteem:
- Encourage and help children learn new things. Each new task can be an opportunity for children to learn and grow as a responsible person. Letting them do their business can also help build their self-confidence.
- To teach children new things, first show them the techniques and help them do it - then let them do as they can, even if they make mistakes.
- Advise the child wisely - so that he does not overestimate himself and concentrates his efforts.
- Be a role model - Make an effort to teach children.
- Never criticize him too much - Children tend to automatically interpret the messages they hear and identify with their ideas.
- Focus on strengths and abilities. Pay attention to what the child can do and what he likes. Make sure he has the opportunity to use and develop his talents and skills.
- Teach children the concept of helping and giving - Self-esteem develops when children know that what they are doing for other people. Caring and kind acts develop self-esteem and other positive feelings.