At one point in our lives, we experienced conflicts in our family, at school or at work. Either way, it was damaging and affected our social relationship. One of the root causes of these conflicts is bullying, which is one of the societal problems facing everyone today, especially the younger generation.
There is no universal definition of bullying. Bullying is basically unwanted behavior adopted by some aggressive and intimidating people. For a conflict to qualify as bullying, it must understand two factors: the use of unbalanced power to harm others and repetition, or the possibility of recidivism in aggression.
Despite this perception, people are still confused about its concept, which often leads to confusion and the lack of an adequate solution to the problem. For more understanding, here are some misconceptions that we hear and often encounter about bullying.
1- Bullying and conflict.
Despite having the capacity to cause harm and trauma, bullying is completely different from conflict. Both involve disagreement and sometimes even dispute it, but as mentioned above, bullying is repeated aggressive behavior by a person or country directed against another person or other people, and the victim bullying has a hard time defending itself. So it's pretty obvious that being bullied is more harmful and painful than being in conflict.
2 - ONLY involve physical harm inflicted on a person.
Physical bullying, which involves physical abuse, is a type of bullying that can be encountered. There is also verbal bullying such as name calling, sexual bullying and homophobic harassment.
3 - Bullying, a behavior inherent in childhood.
Violent and aggressive behavior is not normal, regardless of the phase of life. Particular attention must be paid to this behavioral situation. It should not be overlooked, as it can be life-threatening, and it would be difficult to be able to remedy it later. It is preferable to entrust children with behavioral problems to specialized structures. When you know that at a young age bullying can lead to more serious physical, emotional, mental and social problems as they grow up. In fact, research has shown that adults who were bullied in their youth are more depressed and likely to have low self-esteem.
We should also note that people who are bullied are more likely to engage in more violent activity. Witnesses of moral harassment in their living environment can be negatively affected even if they are not directly concerned.
4 - Bullying and aggressive people are recognizable by their appearance and the way they act.
Although they are generally individuals with aggressive behavior, there are no specific characters that can distinguish them from other people. After all, there is definitely no one who is "born and supposed" to be a bully. Their DNA is no different from that of others. It is their living environment that makes them violent.
5 - Loneliness is a factor that can lead to bullying.
There are two categories of people who can easily develop bullying behaviors. First, the category of people with high social status, such as at school or in the neighborhood, popular people and who have a lot of relationships, can abuse their powers.
Whereas individuals in the second category prefer isolation, because of the pressure of their fellow men. Which leads them to a state of anxiety and depression.
Knowing and understanding the aspects of bullying can help us better identify the issues that arise for both the victim and the bully or abuser. We must not forget that these are helpless individuals who find it difficult to solve their personal problems. We must support them, knowing that helping them is not as simple as solving ordinary conflicts. It is a very serious problem that should not be overlooked or overlooked.