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HOW TO BOX A CHILD INTIMIDATOR?

HOW TO BOX A CHILD INTIMIDATOR?

Parents are concerned about the impact of current changes and innovations on children's behavior. These consequences can cause behavioral disorders in some children, such as bullying. This can affect other people and specifically their siblings. Our children can be bullied, which is dangerous for society. What about bullies? Bullies are also part of our society. It is therefore important to find a solution to this problem. What solutions can be considered to solve this shocking problem?


If you allow everything to the child, he can become a bully. In the way that every child may be bullied (bullying), the bully is also the victim of some of the actions of society.

According to a psychologist, Ronald Mah, children are tempted by bullying for two reasons:
First, bullying is a way for the child to impose his power and be popular.

Secondly, bully children are victims of deprivation and, to satisfy it, they bully other children, especially those who are physically inferior to them.

What to do when our kids are bullies?
Seeing your child become a bully is upsetting to parents. This is understandable. But, you have to pull yourself together, accept the situation and look for solutions. Share your problem with others, for example with teachers and neighbors, so that together you find a solution to this problem. This situation is surmountable by the children, but provided that the parents get involved with them to help them.

Recognize that your child has a bully attitude
It is important to accept the situation of your child, and to know that this behavior is due to other problems. You must be very friendly and open with him, to help your child overcome his problem. Be very careful and above all never blame them. Make him understand that the error is human. You must make him understand by asking him questions, that his behavior may harm others.

Focus on the consequences of his actions
We must put the bully child in front of his responsibilities. Make him understand that the act he has posed is not good, depriving him of certain privileges like his toys, his phone and his hours of play. His intimidations are times when you can approach him for encourage in a good way.

Be optimistic about your collaboration with the school community
Educators always appreciate a parent's approach to the cause of their child. They will have another look than that of seeing you as a bad parent. Work with the administration and teachers to find proposals for solutions to help you.

Strengthen the emotional and social capacities of the child
Help your child to have great emotional and social qualities, to enable him to resolve conflicts and deal with difficult situations. He must therefore understand his situation, know how to manage himself, be tenacious and have a sense of responsibility in making decisions.
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WHAT TEENS ARE EXPECTING FROM THEIR PARENTS?

WHAT TEENS ARE EXPECTING FROM THEIR PARENTS?

Adolescence is the transition from childhood to adulthood, more mature. This phase of the development of the human person is not only difficult for the children, it is also difficult for the parents. This phase of the child's development should be well supervised as it is usually accompanied by family and social problems.


During this phase, children begin to act according to their own understanding, choosing to be with their peers rather than with their parents in particular. Because they assume that parents are unable to understand their feelings and purpose. It is also the time when they form meaningful relationships with other people than their family members or loved ones. Their new aspirations are not so easy to accept and adopt by adults and especially by parents.

Just like the parents of slightly older youth, parents of teens are also following the evolution of this new phase of their children's lives. They think this is an important step for their children and expect them to be present almost every step of the way, despite the urge of teenagers not to see them fully involved in everything. that they will undertake. This is how all the problems arise between the parents and their children.

In the face of these misunderstandings, it is important that parents become more aware of this phase of adolescence that everyone is going through. Society always changes. Parents need to have the idea that change is very fast nowadays. Regardless of the changes they have undergone, this will also happen to their children, who will also go through this stage to become adults.

At this stage, each parent has the task of giving their teenage child the opportunity to become independent and explore his / her environment. In addition, they should give them the opportunity to reflect and decide what might affect their lives. The advice and other gestures of encouragement will be rejected by the teenagers, it is normal and it is part of the process. With these however, the rules and limits have yet to be maintained.

What attitude should parents adopt with their teenage children?

Here are some rules to reduce problems and tensions during the assessment and adaptation period of teenage children:
Just keep listening to your children, even if you are not of the same point of view.

If you are upset about some of their actions or behaviors, which is normal, remember that you must focus on their actions and not on their person. You will resent because you love them and you want them to be good.

Do not blame your children for their appearance or attitude. If this is a bigger problem, you can express your disagreement honestly and simply, and make them understand that you are open and very available to them.

Avoid too much advice and harassment. Avoid comparing yourself to them, or comparing them to other people. It would not be a good method.

There are times when you will be blamed by these children and you have to prepare for them. Still, do not take too much of these criticisms. No matter what you do, never give up on your children.
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HOW TO PREVENT DEPRESSION IN OUR CHILDREN AND OUR ADOLESCENTS?

HOW TO PREVENT DEPRESSION IN OUR CHILDREN AND OUR ADOLESCENTS?

Abrupt changes during the teenage period can be a stressor for children. This state of stress causes depression and suicide for many children. This situation is so alarming that parents decide to help their children, who are going through a difficult phase of their lives.


According to the Mayo Clinic, depression is a state of mental health that causes a psychological problem, feeling and behavior in the adolescent, which affects their physical, emotional and mental development.

A lot of scientific research is being done on adolescence, especially on depression among adolescents. Discoveries in neuroscience, psychological research and behavioral observations have allowed us to understand the problems in adolescents and how to prevent them.

Here are some tips from the scientific experts:

Teenagers always need support.
It happens to adolescents to learn to be independent. Parents think they no longer need their support. It's wrong. The accompaniment of the parents is always important, it contributes, through their experiments, to lower the levels of cortisol and C-reactive proteins, which are factors favoring the depression.

For neuroscientist Ron Dahl, good parenting tips effectively guide teens. Parents need to be interested in their emotional lives. The affection and advice of parents gives children the feeling of being loved and understood. This keeps the child from committing suicide because of depression. Which can often be invisible to parents.

Be a good example, especially on the social and emotional aspects
There are social and emotional problems among teens' difficulties such as friendship problems, romantic relationships and other disappointments. It will be very difficult to control them in a context of intense emotion.

The parents' experience can be a great contribution to making children cope better with the difficulties they face. In addition, Dr. Christine Carter's concept of mindfulness (attentive presence) allows parents to stay calm when they interact with their teenage children. Children will avoid anxiety, depression and other problems such as drug use.

Bring the kids to be optimistic and see things on the bright side
Apart from parents, teens are also loved by other people such as friends, this can prevent them from failure which is one of the causes of depression.

According to a 2005 study, establishing relationships with a social group, protects the teenager against the risks of depression and anxiety. We are not talking here about social networks. In addition, it helps to improve relationships between the teenager and his peers, as well as to have good physical health.

Parents still have a role to play in this regard. They should not react too much whenever teenagers frequent a lot of friends, on the contrary. Parents need to know that taking risks in relationships is always part of their development. This is how learning works.

Encourage adolescents to set better goals
It is important for parents to know what their children are doing and what they want to do in life. In addition, they must listen to them in order to identify the actions they envision in life. Gratitude can be a great way to achieve one's goals. School and extracurricular activities must have an impact on them, not just to succeed, but as a channel for collegial initiatives.

It is imperative not to judge them.
A child, especially a teenager, will retire as soon as he feels a bit of judgment. He often looks for a confidant, a close person he can count on and trust. Parents are well suited for this role. You also have the role of the executioner in his life (you set the rules since childhood). The teenager must understand that he has nothing to fear from you if he confides in you.

Just remember your own adolescence.
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